Photo by Muha
I’m a homely girl. I love to bake, knit, photograph, cook & flit around my flat. I absolutely love to party like most people, but I prefer to be socialising at someones house or in a pub where we can actually talk. I don’t smoke or do drugs, despite the fact they’d be readily available for me if I wanted them. We all (certainly in this country, anyway) seem to be tarred with the same brush. But not all young people are the same. Fair enough if you want to live your life that way & genuinely enjoy it— who am I to judge? But I think it’s important to step back now & again & ask yourself if you’re really having a good time or you’re just going with the majority. If you’re not, you need to have the willpower to say ‘no’.
I recently turned down the opportunity to go to Zante with my girlfriends for a week, because I knew I wouldn’t have a good time. I’m not adverse to a little skiing & I love my city-breaks, but for me, the perfect holiday conjures up magical images of blue skies & a calm aqua-coloured sparkling sea, feeling the hot sand beneath your feet on uncrowded beaches, glorious sunshine beating down on your back, hot weather & big fresh swimming pools to cool off in, relaxation with a book, magazine or awesome playlist while sunbathing poolside, dining out in the evening, boat trips to forgotten islands & untouched, little love-nest-like beaches, amazing barbecues, a little culture, sight-seeing & photo-opportunities, experiencing local markets, local people & local traditions, new exciting foods & drinks and having an amazing time, doing & seeing things that you wouldn’t at home— a ‘holiday’ is not getting legless in a bar, getting with randoms, being sick & finding yourself / your friends in hospital, living off of rations for a week, hangovers & chilling with a bunch of chavs. (If I wanted this, I’d stay at home. And it’d be cheaper.) I’ll never buy into this club 18-30s / Zante / Magaluf / Ibiza phenomenon!
I know what I like & I like what I know. In recent years I’ve taken myself out of the pigeon-hole that everyone else put me in & I’m genuinely a happier person. Here’s a few tips on how you can balance your exuberance & exhilaration too!
Attire— are you comfortable in that? Do you like the way it looks? Do you feel like you? If you’re happier in Primark than Prada, then whack out that credit card on the local high street! People try so hard to be ‘individual’, but there’s no point striving to be unique if you’re unhappy. (And plus, all those ‘individuals’ end up looking the same at some point anyway, which totally defeats their objective!)
Socialising— if you don’t want to go out clubbing every single week, then don’t. There will always be someone feeling the same way that you do, so mention it to your mates & see if a couple of you can do something a bit more low-key instead! There’s always bars, pubs, restaurants & friends houses as an alternative. All the unplanned nights in, end up being the best ones anyway, don’t they?
Activities— like knitting? Then knit. Wanna bake cupcakes? Bake. Wanna write a book? Write. Wanna go to that blogger convention? Go. Sometimes it’s just that simple.
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10 Comments
Too true miss! We are much happier now that the rest of our friends have caught up to our train of thought that it’s much nicer and much much cheaper to socialise at home where you can pick the music, or in a restaurant where we can at least hear each other talk. A few of the boys still go out to town after the home based gatherings occasionally but it means I can get comfy in my bed after some drinks and good conversation instead of getting a swollen throat from second hand smoke. :]
Exactly! I mean, I’m not a total recluse who’s adverse to going out or anything! But I just think (& I don’t know whether it’s cos we’re both in long-term relationships here, that we’re on the same wavelength?!) it doesn’t have to be all the time & you don’t have to do what almost everyone else is doing i.e. getting smashed & getting it on with strangers! I’d much rather be in a quiet place where I can hear my mates, like you say. And sometimes it’s just nice to get comfy in bed!
I really enjoyed this post! I think especially as I’ve got older I’ve become far more concerned with doing what I want to do rather than what I feel that I should be doing.
I’m the same with them Zante/Ibiza holidays- I can’t cope with 2 nights out in a row, let alone 7! The thought of being hungover for most of the holiday does not appeal. Not that it’s wrong- it’s just not my cup of tea!
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Thanks! I’m the same— 7 nights out in a row is not do-able, haha! Yeah, I’m not saying it’s wrong, but like you say, it just doesn’t float my boat!
Perhaps it’s because me, you & Kim who commented above are all in long-term relationships & live with our partners, that we find it easier to have nights in, or out but away from the clubbing culture? I guess we all have someone who’s always there, who we probably want some quality time with, as opposed to a drunken messy night!
Yeah I think that does affect it. I think them mad drunken holidays are the most fun when you’re single because you have no ties and can just do exactly as you please. It changes slightly when you’re with someone- however I do adore a big girly night out dancing!!
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id rather go to the Maldives & similar (i assume the photo is from there) than a week in zante/kos type of clubbing holiday. I did the amazing beach holiday this year, and no clubbing holiday will ever compare!
Yeah, totally! The Maldives is on my list of places to visit in my lifetime. Beaches, all the way!
I’m glad there are some ladies out there who feel the same as I do!
I must admit, I’m a bit of everything haha. I love the holidays where you get so drunk you can’t see, just purely because it’s a holiday and everyone has the same feeling of no work, and the atmosphere is just buzzing. I’m very much influenced by atmosphere more than people.
I do love the quiet life too. I think once you enter the realms of Long Term Relationships you tend to calm down a lot. Unless your other half represents the Pete Doherty massive. Hah x
I definitely know what you mean. I’m going into my second year of university now, but before I moved away from home, I didn’t really know who I was. Or at least I knew who I was but I didn’t know anyone that appreciated certain bands or books of films like I did, anyone that was genuinely interested in talking about stuff AS WELL as going out. I went to Ibiza, and it was sort of fun.. But I too recently have turned down a Zante/Magaluf-inclined holiday with the girls because.. I know that it just wouldn’t be as enjoyable as I would want a holiday with my friends to be! I appreciate the things I like most more outwardly and freely now, if that makes sense. I’ve found myself wanting to do more mellow, low-key things with my friends instead of going out all the time. And I think when you’re in a relationship as well, knowing that you could stay in doing nothing for nothing with someone is often more tempting that spending a bit too much money on a not that great night and feeling awful and guilty the next day..
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